I grew up believing that life is difficult and that life always happens to me, not for me. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve come to realize that we - in conjunction with the universe - have the power to shape what our lives will look like. I dive into how neuroscience & spirituality can work hand in hand to get us the outcomes we desire and craft the life we want.

Stick around until the end of the video for a trick on how to start making life work FOR you.

I recently learned that in Chinese medicine, fear & wisdom are flip sides of the same coin - which I know, can sound very random (and maybe insane). I used two real life examples and in real time dove into how the fear I was feeling actually held a lot of wisdom and learnings for me!

I'm won’t to say being in a state of fear is the most fun, but I definitely feel like I grow a lot as a person when I lean into that fear instead of burying it down or avoiding it.

It wasn’t until my friendships started to fade (all at the same time), that I realized what a house of cards my self love really was. After spending most of my life deriving my self worth and love based on how many people loved me (and called me “best friend”), I had to really dig deep into myself to figure out who I was (more so, how wonderful I was) without others’ making me feel that way.

As I go through shedding my programming, I’m coming to learn how important it is to allow friendships to fade so the most aligned people can come into my life. I’m coming to learn how not only am I so lucky to have people love me, but people are also lucky to have my love. :)

Grief hasn't been like I expected. In this episode, I talk about my journey with grief and my unexpected learnings/growth along the way.

To be honest, this episode was a challenge for me. A challenge to dive deeper into myself and speak on something that has been top of soul, heart, and body for me for a while. A challenge to be vulnerable and lean into the fear of sharing something that been a part of me for most of this year.

I’ve come to realize that everything I go through in life is part of some bigger picture that may not be clear to me just yet - and that brings me some peace. Thank you for being here. :)

I spent a lot of timing believing that I was born a certain type of person and would (in some aspects) retain those aspects of myself forever. What I’ve come to learn is while that is NOT true, there are certain actions that need to be taken to start to shift aspects of myself that I don’t feel represent me or serve me anymore.

Three steps that I’ve begun begun to take are:

1. Not beating myself up over patterns of behavior that I want to shift away from. I’ve started to accept the parts of myself that I used to previously judge for being too mean, being too crazy, being irrational, etc.. I now do my best to see myself for where I currently am - at the same time recognizing where I want to be.

2. Observing myself. A huge step is realizing and admitting there are shifts in behaviors / ways of being that I want to have. I have started to watch myself acting out the behaviors / ways of being from a place of objectivity. I also have gotten very clear on what these behavior are, what brings them out, and why I resort to them. (This can be a tough one, and I find I have to remind myself to be gentle with myself as I practice this observation more and more.)

3. Taking some space and time for myself! I try to do something that fills my cup and brings some nourishment back to my soul. Or, my personal favorite, I go and feel my feelings - that can look like crying, journaling, or feeling deeply into my body through stretching or dancing.

This type of inner, expansive work will not happen overnight. But as we start to become more aware of how we walk in the world, we start to create new neural pathways and slowly influence our behavior. Shifting starts with the smallest of ripples before you feel the waves.

All in all, please be easy on yourselves. The patterns we have are so deeply ingrained into us - for me, it’s a newer version of me completing with almost 30 years of programmed, strong neural pathways and ways of being.

Who said change was easy or would happen overnight? True, lasting change is a journey - one that we are always all the better for.

“Self love” is a term that gets thrown around quite a bit. I used to think it was about signing up for some self care time - whether it was going to get that massage, going to get my nails done, or even eating that ice cream that I was really craving. I recently learned that I had barely been scratching the surface of what self love was really about.

I was making decisions in the name of self love all the time, yet couldn’t figure out why I was so depleted. On the surface I thought that I was practicing self love - but why I was really doing was punishing myself. I’ve come to realize that true self love is making sure that I am comfortable and feeling good in every situation, big or small.

P.S. I realized my mic never turned on so you will be hearing my doggos in the background saying hi! Thanks for being here through all my recording learnings.

Just because we’re meant for great things - that doesn’t always mean our path there will be the easiest. Just because we are in a situation that might launch us to the next level - that doesn’t always mean we are ready / willing to level up. If there’s anything that I learned with not working the music festival, it’s that first and foremost, my commitment is to myself. It all comes down to trusting in myself.

I want to clarify that I fully believe my intuition knows what’s best. I completely trust my intuition and the guidance that comes with it. The biggest question for me was: was I ready to embark on the path my intuition was showing me. Knowing I had the opportunity to level up didn't mean I was ready for it at that time. With this situation, I needed to learn the lesson of trusting myself no matter what - and I can say with absolute certainty that I’m all the better off with this lesson (although the mental agony suuuuucked lol).

I used to make the mistake of always trusting the first emotion that came up in regards to a situation. I've learned over the years, that what first comes up isn't how I'm truly feeling.

As a BONUS, I've included two exercises that I use to figure out what/how I'm really feeling.

I grew up thinking that it was feeling your feelings that gave them power. And so, naturally, I thought that was something I should never do. I learned - the very easy way as you can imagine (PSYCH) - that the truth is the very opposite.

It’s the shoving down and ignoring of emotions that gives them the very power many of us would love to avoid. And not only that, that very act can leads to emotions bleeding over into our physical bodies.

I attribute a lot of my healing to - of course myself - but also to all the teachers, facilitators, and guides I’ve had over the years. From functional doctors, to acupuncturists, to chiropractors, to lymphatic massage therapists, to organ massage facilitators. I can say with full conviction that would not have come as far without the support of these wonderful people.

P.S. I realized after recording that my mic cut out over 5 minutes of my voice so please don’t mind my voiceover. Thanks for being here through all my recording learnings.

A lot of us have heard the sentiment that “what’s meant to happen to me (or for me) will happen no matter what.” I’ve seen the evidence stack up against this time and time again (both in my life & in others), and I’ve come to learn that unless you add in the ingredient of hard work, nothing is guaranteed.

I think a lot of us can relate to learning that health was a destination that could only be achieved with doctors & drugs. While they have their place, I’ve come to learn that health is more so a holistic journey that, in some ways, we’re always on.

One thing I did want to clarify (lest I scare you off), is that the benefits of starting to shift your lifestyle can show up in as little as a couple months. What I have learned (through my personal experience) is that the benefits massively compound over time - in my case, over years.